I've always thought of forgiveness as a big effort which is great for the person that's wronged you - it's let them off the hook - but with not much in it for me, apart from a sanctimonious feeling of superiority as I've been "the bigger person".
Well, my latest revelation is that it's all cobblers. It's nothing to do with the other person at all. It's actually none of their business whether I forgive them or not.
BUT, forgiving and forgetting is great for me as it immediately banishes all those dreadful feelings of anger, hurt, bitterness and being a victim, and releases me from the burden of carrying them around with me. So forgiveness is health-promoting and utterly selfish. And what's wrong with that?
Well, my latest revelation is that it's all cobblers. It's nothing to do with the other person at all. It's actually none of their business whether I forgive them or not.
BUT, forgiving and forgetting is great for me as it immediately banishes all those dreadful feelings of anger, hurt, bitterness and being a victim, and releases me from the burden of carrying them around with me. So forgiveness is health-promoting and utterly selfish. And what's wrong with that?
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